Perfectly Imperfect Me 365

Ever catch yourself jumping in to fix everyone’s problems… then getting mad when no one changes? Or feeling powerless and wondering why life keeps happening to you? Welcome to the Drama Triangle — where the Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor take turns running your relationships into the ground.
In this episode, I share what my own therapist pointed out to me this week (spoiler: I was deep in the rescuer role 🙃), and we unpack what Diane Zimberoff calls “the victim trap” — the cycle that keeps people stuck, resentful, and disconnected.
We’ll talk about:• How each role secretly maintains the chaos• Why rescuing isn’t kindness — it’s control in disguise• How to recognize when you’re sliding into the triangle• Concrete ways to step out and build healthier, more balanced connections
If you’ve ever felt drained from “helping,” blamed for everything, or trapped in the same emotional loops — this one’s going to hit.
Because the moment you stop rescuing, blaming, or surrendering your power… that’s the moment you actually get it back.
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The holidays are coming — and with them, a whole storm of emotions, expectations, and family chaos wrapped in shiny paper. In this episode, I’m breaking down why the holidays hit so hard for so many of us (hint: it’s not just the in-laws or the turkey), and how to handle it with real, evidence-based tools that actually work.
We’ll talk about:🎄 Why family dynamics resurface the second you walk through the door🧠 How anxiety, grief, and guilt show up during “the most wonderful time of the year”💬 How to set boundaries without drowning in shame✨ DBT skills like STOPP, DEAR MAN, and Radical Acceptance to keep you grounded❤️ And most importantly — how to treat yourself with compassion when it all feels too much
This isn’t your typical “stay positive” holiday pep talk — it’s an honest, funny, and real conversation about surviving the season with your sanity (and self-respect) intact.
If the holidays make you want to hide in your car between family events, this episode’s for you.
🎧 Listen now and get your emotional toolkit ready for the chaos — one deep breath at a time.
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In this episode, we chat with Kat, a survivor of domestic violence, PTSD, and single motherhood at 16.
She opens the doors on trauma and shines the light on the hidden scars of emotional and psychological abuse.
She speaks with raw honesty about the lasting impact of trauma, the power of boundaries, and how self-worth plays a critical role in healing.
Through her personal story, she challenges audiences to rethink what they know about abusive relationships and foster a deeper understanding of the complexities survivors face.
A sought-after speaker for colleges, healthcare professionals, and law enforcement, she equips you with the knowledge to support survivors and create meaningful change.
Check her out at www.the-lotus-effect.com and be sure to subscribe to her podcast, Real Chat with Kat on your listening platforms.
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In this episode of Perfectly Imperfect Me 365, Rachel explores the cultural phenomenon of burnout, discussing its origins, impacts, and coping strategies. She emphasizes that burnout is not a personal failure but a societal issue that many face. The conversation delves into the unhealthy coping mechanisms people often resort to and highlights healthier strategies for recovery, including radical acceptance and reconnecting with personal values. Rachel encourages listeners to cultivate awareness of their burnout and take small steps towards recovery.#burnout #culturalphenomenon #copingstrategies #mentalhealth #selfcare #emotionalexhaustion #awareness #recovery #values #DBTskillsFollow me for more real, relatable mental health support:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwbloggFacebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

In this episode of Perfectly Imperfect Me, Rachel discusses the common misconception that motivation is the key to taking action. She explains that motivation is a fleeting feeling rather than a reliable behavior. Instead of waiting for motivation to strike, Rachel offers practical strategies to overcome procrastination and get started on tasks, emphasizing the importance of breaking tasks down into smaller steps, validating oneself, and creating a supportive environment for action.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwbloggFacebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional, medical or mental health advice.

In this episode, Rachel explores the cultural discourse surrounding Taylor Swift's latest album, addressing the polarized interpretations of her lyrics. She emphasizes the importance of dialectical thinking, advocating for the ability to hold multiple truths simultaneously rather than succumbing to binary thinking. Rachel critiques the societal tendency to label cultural figures as either conservative or liberal, arguing that this oversimplification stifles meaningful dialogue and understanding. She encourages listeners to embrace complexity and nuance in both music and broader societal issues.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwblogg⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.#TaylorSwift #conservativepipeline #Thelifeofashowgirl

Trigger warning: frank talk about self-harm and suicidal thoughts. In this fast-paced, honest episode I sit with you like a friend and a DBT therapist to explain why people with Borderline Personality Disorder engage in self-harm, how to spot the difference between coping behavior and suicidal intent, and practical, compassionate ways to help—whether you’re the person struggling or someone who loves them. Includes quick DBT tools, a safety-plan script, and clear guidance on when to reach for emergency help. (If you’re in immediate danger, call emergency services or, in the U.S., call/text 988.)The episode concludes with a reminder of the importance of compassion and understanding in addressing mental health issues.takeawaysSelf-harm is often a misunderstood survival skill.Many believe self-harm is attention-seeking, which is a misconception.Self-harm communicates emotional pain that words cannot express.Offering connection and compassion is more effective than judgment.Grounding techniques can help manage urges to self-harm.DBT is an effective therapy for BPD and self-harm.Self-harm is a temporary coping mechanism, not a sign of being broken.Building a fulfilling life is essential for recovery.Talking about self-harm without shame can lead to change.Support is crucial; individuals do not have to face this alone.👉 If you’re struggling right now: You are not alone. Please reach out for support — call or text 988 (in the U.S.), or look up your local crisis line.Safety Plan Template: ⁠https://rachelwrites3.gumroad.com/l/telrqj⁠Grounding Kit Cheat sheet: ⁠https://rachelwrites3.gumroad.com/l/vuwpa⁠Disclaimer & Terms of UseThis resource is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, counseling, medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Downloading or using this material does not establish a therapist-client relationship with the creator.If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or thinking about suicide, please call your local emergency number immediately. In the U.S., you can dial or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.By downloading this resource, you agree that:You will use it for personal use only and not distribute, modify, or sell it without permission.You understand that the creator assumes no liability for how you choose to use the material.You are responsible for your own safety and well-being, and you should seek professional support when needed.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwblogg⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

In this episode, Rachel discusses the phenomenon of religious psychosis and extreme apocalyptic beliefs, particularly in the context of the failed doomsday prediction for September 23rd. She explores the psychological and emotional fallout for families affected by these beliefs, including financial instability, generational trauma, and mental health issues. Rachel also offers coping strategies for those dealing with loved ones in such states, emphasizing the importance of acceptance, boundaries, and support.TakeawaysSome people genuinely believed this would be the end of the world.Religious psychosis occurs when faith-based ideas detach from reality.Extreme beliefs can lead to financial chaos and emotional turmoil.Families experience broken trust and fear due to apocalyptic beliefs.The long-term consequences include financial instability and generational trauma.Mental health issues like depression and anxiety can arise from these beliefs.Coping strategies include radical acceptance and setting boundaries.It's important to connect with others for support during crises.Doomsday prophecies often lead to repeated cycles of belief and disappointment.Resilience is key in rebuilding after such experiences.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwbloggFacebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

Borderline Personality Disorder is one of the most misunderstood and stigmatized mental health diagnoses out there. In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest myths—like “people with BPD are manipulative,” “BPD is untreatable,” or “they’re just attention-seeking”—and explaining why these stereotypes are flat-out wrong.As a DBT therapist, I’ll walk you through what’s really going on beneath the surface, how BPD actually shows up, and why recovery is possible. Whether you’re living with BPD, love someone who has it, or just want to better understand the disorder without all the stigma, this episode will give you compassion, clarity, and hope.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwbloggFacebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠Florida Borderline Personality Disorder Association Hope for BPD - for families https://www.hopeforbpd.comThe podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

In today's episode, we're going to unpack the Sadia Khan scandal and use it to discuss a wider problem: when influencer brands borrow clinical language, how does that harm clients and licensed professionals? We'll will give you practical tips for verifying credentials and protecting your mental health online. Rachel is talking about allegations reported in public sources — not claiming any court or regulator has convicted anyone here. 🔗 Show Notes & Resources📰 News SourcesIndia Times – Sadia Khan dating coach controversy: Viral voice note sparks cheating claims — Coverage of the affair allegations and leaked audio fueling the current drama.Primetimer – Profile on Sadia Khan — Background on her brand, social media following, and positioning as a dating coach.✅ Verify Credentials (UK & US)HCPC Misuse of Title — Why certain psychology titles are legally protected in the UK.HCPC Register — Search the official UK register to confirm if someone is a practitioner psychologist.British Psychological Society – Protected Titles — Explanation of what titles mean and who can use them.APA Services – State Psychology Licensing Boards — U.S. listeners: find your state board and check licenses.📊 Research & Guidance on MisinformationAPA – How to Address Misinformation About Mental Health — Tools for clinicians and consumers to spot false claims.BMJ Mental Health – Systematic Review of Mental Health Misinformation on Social Media — Evidence on how common and harmful online misinformation is.🧭 Coaching Industry & BoundariesInternational Coaching Federation – Ethics & Professional Standards — Shows the limits of regulation in coaching.BPS Division of Coaching Psychology — Guidance on keeping coaching and therapy distinct.👉 If you want to protect yourself when looking for help online: check the registers, ask for evidence, and don’t confuse charisma with credentials.If this episode helped you think more critically about who you follow for mental-health advice, share it. If you’re a clinician who’s seeing the fallout of influencer misinformation in your practice, DM me — I want to hear your stories for a future episode.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwbloggFacebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

Nobody warns you about the chapter of life where the roles flip—when your parent becomes the one who needs you. In this episode, I share my own story of navigating life as an adult child caring for my dad: the late-night hospital calls, the constant “clean up crew” work of canceling scams and subscriptions he never needed, and the emotional rollercoaster of balancing his independence with his safety.It’s raw, messy, and sometimes even a little funny—because if you don’t laugh about being on hold with customer service for the fifth time this week, you’ll cry. If you’ve ever felt the weight of parenting your parent, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone, you’re not failing, and it’s okay to admit that this is one of the hardest parts of adulthood.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@rachelwblogg⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

We’ve all heard people say, “I’m so OCD about my closet” or “I’m OCD about my desk.” But here’s the truth: liking things neat is a preference, not a disorder. In this episode, I break down the real difference between enjoying organization and living with obsessive-compulsive disorder.We’ll talk about what OCD actually is — the cycle of intrusive thoughts and compulsions — and how it can seriously interfere with daily life, relationships, and even something as simple as leaving the house. And we’ll look at why casually using “OCD” as shorthand for tidiness waters down the reality of a serious, often painful mental health condition.If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between quirks and a disorder, this episode will set the record straight.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@yourusername⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

What happens when you’re the friend who stays home while everyone else leaves for college? This episode dives into the quiet heartbreak of watching your best friends live out their “college dream” while you’re still in your childhood bedroom. We’ll talk about the grief no one acknowledges, the loneliness of feeling left behind, and why staying home doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. If you’ve ever scrolled through your friends’ highlight reels and wondered, “Am I missing out on life?”—this one’s for you.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠https://tiktok.com/@yourusername⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW⁠The podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

A real-time mental health crisis is unfolding on TikTok, and the internet can’t look away. In this episode, I break down the viral Kendra saga—her multi-part story about falling in love with her psychiatrist, the sudden involvement of AI “Henry,” and the signs that point to a possible psychotic episode happening in public view.We’ll talk about why watching these breakdowns as “entertainment” is dangerous, how social media algorithms reward the spiral, and the very real harm that comes from enabling someone in crisis—whether you mean to or not. Most importantly, I’ll share what we can actually do as a community when we see something like this online.This isn’t tea. This is someone’s mental health on display. And we have to start handling it differently.Resources mentioned in this episode:988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (U.S.): Call or text 988Find other crisis lines worldwide: https://findahelpline.com

In this episode of Perfectly Imperfect Me 365, Rachel shares her personal journey with postpartum depression, discussing the confusion, shame, and isolation she felt after the birth of her first son. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing the signs of postpartum depression, seeking help, and taking small steps towards recovery. Rachel also highlights the significance of support systems and the duality of motherhood, acknowledging that it is possible to love your child while also feeling overwhelmed and lost. The episode serves as a reminder that new mothers are not alone in their struggles and encourages them to be gentle with themselves.Follow me for more real, relatable mental health support: Instagram: ⁠https://instagram.com/rachelblogglcsw⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://tiktok.com/@yourusername⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://facebook.com/rachelbloggLCSW⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSWThe podcast content is intended for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.It's crucial to emphasize that the information provided is not a replacement for the services of a trained therapist, doctor, or other health professional.  #postpartumdepression #mentalhealth #motherhood #support #therapy #moms

Ryn Sloane is a Certified Integrative Healing and Cancer Resilience Guide, and a breast cancer survivor who understands firsthand the invisible battle that begins after treatment ends. She specializes in guiding cancer survivors through the emotional, mental, and spiritual Aftermath of their diagnosis, helping them reclaim their power, identity, and achieve profound wholeness.Through her signature Sloane Healing Method™, Ryn's soul-led approach blends trauma-informed coaching with practical tools for emotional processing and deep self-reclamation, providing a roadmap for living unapologetically beyond cancer. She empowers individuals to move past feeling lost in their bodies and unsure of their future, towards an unshakeable sense of self and purpose.You can find Ryn's work, including her free community Ashes of Courage and her high-impact coaching programs, at https://www.sloanehealing.com.

We all mess up—but what really matters is how we handle it. In this episode, we dive into the power of accountability and how taking responsibility strengthens our relationships, builds trust, and fuels personal growth. We’ll break down why avoiding accountability leads to broken trust, common mistakes when apologizing (yes, we’re looking at those “I’m sorry if” apologies), and how to make real amends. Ready to own up and level up? Let’s talk about it!🎧 Tune in now & let’s chat—DM me your thoughts on Instagram or Tik Tok!

Borderline Personality Disorder gets a lot of hate—and most of it is based on myths, misunderstandings, and TikTok diagnosis drama. In this episode, I’m breaking down what BPD actually is, why people with it are not manipulative monsters, and how to support someone you love who struggles with emotional intensity and fear of abandonment.Whether you’ve got BPD, love someone who does, or just want to stop saying “toxic” every time someone has big feelings—this one's for you.Don't forget to subscribe, follow and rate this episode! Oh yeah, don't forget to share this with someone who really would benefit from listening to it.Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rachelblogglcswFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/RachelBloggLCSW/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@RachelBlogg-LCSW

What happens when the house gets quiet... too quiet? When the kids are grown, the schedule slows down, and you’re left wondering, “Who even am I now?”In this episode, I’m talking from both my mom heart and therapist brain about the identity shift that happens when you become an empty nester. We’ll explore the grief, the guilt, the weird freedom — and how to gently rediscover the you underneath it all.Whether you’re in the thick of it or just peeking around the corner at this next chapter, this one’s for you. Come sit with me. Let’s talk about how to make space for your next becoming.Visit me at @rachelblogglcsw and drop the word RESET and I'll give you a special surprise

Ever try to explain how maxed out you feel—and your partner just doesn’t get it? Maybe they hit you with “Just ask for help!” or “Why didn’t you say anything?” and suddenly you’re fantasizing about throwing a sock at their head.This episode is for every mom who feels emotionally invisible, mentally overloaded, and like she’s carrying 97 tabs open in her brain at all times.In this episode, Rachel is breaking down:Why your partner doesn’t see what you’re carryingHow to communicate your overwhelm without sounding like you're blamingWhat to say that actually lands (no sarcasm translator required)How to advocate for yourself without the guiltBecause you deserve to feel seen, supported, and not like you're silently drowning while your partner asks where the ketchup is.🎧 Listen now, and then send it to your partner as a gentle nudge 😉